…At A Loss For Words

14 Jun

What do you say when you don’t know what to say?  Men usually default to something profound about the weather.  In touchy-feely moments we can even acknowledge our humanism and say something as profound as, “Take care of yourself.”  There are so many occasions when we just don’t know what to say.  Goodbye’s…when you are not sure you will ever see that person again are like that.  They can come at the end of an event or at the end of a life.  I just experienced both.  The big difference is the time horizon.  And faith.  After an event, the seeing-that-person-again thing relates to the difference in the expected journeys for each over the time they have left to experience life.  At the end of life, the seeing-again thing takes on a much deeper significance because the time horizon is expanded to include forever and the expectations have more to do with the journeys already experienced in life.

I said goodbye to men after an event at MTI.  Our expected journeys will take us to locations around the globe.  Some, I will see again.  Some, I will not.  In this life.  But I have the same hope we all share of seeing each other again.  That hope is not limited by a time horizon of three score and ten.

Two days after MTI, I said another goodbye.  At the end of a life.  To a man I had known for forty years.  I did not know what to say.  I know that I would like to see him again.  I would like to say more than the last words I spoke to him in our shared time horizon…”Take care of yourself.”  When we said goodbye back then, I was at a loss for words.  My respected friend came to his expected end of his life journey.  We did not share a faith but we shared a love and admiration for each other.  I only know that God loved him more than I did and that I can only commit him to that Love.  I wish there was more but that is my only hope.  And I am still at a loss for words.

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